my hope for all of us is that this summer is finds us all in a place of healing, of rest, and of hope.
I found some SAA (sex addicts anonymous) literature lying around the house, and there was a piece that really caught my eye- it was talking about the flip side of sex addiction, which is sexual anorexia. The article went on to say “going from acting out as a sex addict to acting in as a sexual anorexic is like swapping chairs on the titanic.
Made me think.
I have numerous seats on the titanic that are available to me at any given time- overspending, overeating, restrictive eating, overexercising, masturbation, complete shut down of anything and everything sexual, isolating, or losing myself for hours in the endless void that is the internet. Just to name a few.
If my sexually addicted partner has his seat booked, it is important that I know how many tickets I’m holding so I don’t go down with the ship.
Today we are both wearing life vests and are bobbing in life boats on a brief and much appreciated sea of temporary calm.
Incidentally, I never understood the end of Titanic. Why would they try to share that door? Or why not just take turns? Or find another door to lay on? Either way, it’s a great picture of how I can operate as a partner of a sex addict, hanging on in the freezing water to HIS door. Much better to find my own so we can hang on side by side.